It’s time to stop deceiving ourselves.
Someone recently figured out my personality type for me. I might expound more on this in the future, because I actually feel understood now, but there were a few things that stuck out to me. (I’m an INFJ, by the way.) First, people with my type tend to have many different creative interests and a problem choosing what to do. And secondly, they get burnt out often.
Both of those apply, and that’s dangerous. Why? Because I do have a very hard time choosing what to do, and generally, the way that pans out is I just go and do #allthethings.
I want to be successful at everything I love. Blogger. Photographer. Writer. Book reviewer. Fashionista. Homemaker. Wife. Pen pal. Theologian. Farmer. Friend. Artist. Singer. I want to do all of those and get married, raise a family, learn Greek, travel the US, own an Etsy shop, teach history, build a six-figure photography business, become a Nouthetic counselor, serve my church, play guitar well, found a women’s ministry…in no particular order.
I want to be successful at everything I love.
The list goes on and on. And the problem is? Potentially, I know I can be successful at any of those. That’s not being conceited – I’m simply being matter-of-fact. I have enough passion and talent for each of those. That’s just what is a part of being creative, and the drive comes from being a visionary entrepreneur.
However, I know for certain I can’t be successful at all of those things. Do I want to admit it? Nope. No, I want to keep lying to myself that I can be everything I want for everyone and make myself and everyone else happy. And when I push and push, and find that I haven’t got enough time to do everything, well then, the answer must be to wake up earlier. Stay up later. Dedicate my life to living it to the very fullest it possibly could be.
Can we truly find fulfillment from doing all the things?
The question is, can we truly find fulfillment from doing all the things? – or doing a few things and putting our entire heart and soul into them?
I’ve said goodbye to some of my dreams. And I’ve failed at other dreams. Failure is good for me. It helps me realize that I’m wasting time trying to do everything. I’m wasting time trying to be Wonder Woman, and I just can’t. I just don’t believe it’s possible to do everything we want to do in life and succeed at them all.
I want to be passionate about living an intentional life. Not torn between a million interests. Is this hard for me? Very. I feel like I’m missing out on my fullest potential by giving things up. After all, to whom much is given, much will be required, right?
I want to be passionate about living an intentional life.
Just because God gave me a talent for singing and violin doesn’t mean I should become a professional vocalist or concertmistress of the symphony. Just because I enjoy writing and have written some pretty short stories doesn’t mean I should write a book.
You know what I think this means? I think it means I’ll be able to contribute to other people’s lives. I’m already doing that with violin. I don’t have a teaching studio, but I’m teaching one girl who loves it. Because I love history, writing, and art, when the opportunity arises, I’ll be able to instill a passion for those into others – be they my children or simply whoever God brings into my life. One day, because I know how to garden and take care of animals, I’ll be able to use that skill. One day, because I honed my skills of music, I’ll be able to serve my church or teach my children.
I think having many interests means I can help out others who may have one or two of the same interests. Just because I have skills doesn’t mean I should market them all.
My life goals are to glorify God, live out the Gospel, serve others, and invest fully into whatever I do.
My life goals are not to become a singer or counselor or writer or six-figure photographer or mom. My life goals are to glorify God, live out the Gospel, serve others, and invest fully into whatever I do.
That means I should give up some of my interests for later. And you know? That’s hard. But it’s good. I need to focus my efforts fully on what is most important now to achieve my life goals. And sometimes that means giving up.
If you’re a creative with many interests, I hope this helped you. I write this, not to boast about all my interests, but to encourage you to focus on your goals for your life. Where do you want to be in 20 years? in 40? in 60? Think about it now so you don’t waste time, energy, and money. What’s really important? Can you seriously invest fully if you’re doing all the things?